How do I explain a two year gap due to a suicide in the immediate family?

by Anonymous
(Somewhere)

My bipolar husband suicided two years ago. Besides dealing with the stigma and grief that follows such a death, I have had to settle the estate from "hell", be there for my children etc... I have periodically attended classes during this time to keep up job skills.

I would like to inquire on how little or much info to give for this two year gap... I sure would like to post on my resume "I have gotten through this horrible mess! I know now I can handle ANYTHING!

Answer: Hello... sorry to hear you have gone through such a rough time, but glad to hear you've come out on the other side, strong and confident. Sounds like you've learned to take good care of yourself.

I don't think it's necessary to give a lot of detail. I think you could just say something like, "My husband died unexpectedly and I took time off to settle the estate, re-group, and take care of our children." DO mention the classes you've taken and an assurance that you are now prepared to re-enter the workforce.

On your resume, DO give yourself credit for the new skills you have now with coping, etc. You don't have to say how you acquired such skills, just that you have them.

Best success to you in your job search... Kathi